Shut the fuck up & Listen

Published on 18 June 2025 at 18:09

You know what I’ve been thinking about, shutting the fuck up and listening.

I think my generation is very lonely and I try to think of reasons why that is and I think a lot of it is to do with the gender divide. I think men and women are hating each other now more than ever and it’s a silent war that we are raging. I don’t really know how to fix that where it came from or anything like that which I guess isn’t true. I think I know where it came from but I think the first step at unraveling all of that might be just shutting the fuck up and listening. I think my generation cares about my ourselves. I think we might be the most selfish generation that is coming out and I don’t think that’s a bad thing. I mean I’ve written about how I believe especially women should be selfish, but if we don’t want to be so lonely, and if we want to value our peers and value those around us, then we need to shut the fuck up and listen and that’s not easy. You can ask anyone who’s actually tried to listen. It’s not easy because we all have these thoughts in our brain going 90 miles a minute and that’s all we care about but if we can start caring about people and about us not being so alone and then I think that’s the first step.

Especially men. I am a woman so obviously I only get one side of the story, but when I talk to my peers and the woman around me they're normally pretty agreeable, and I normally feel listened to. I think right now men need to listen first, they need to be the ones that are willing to have those conversations, put down their pride and listen to us and to what we have to say and they need to think about it. Shutting the fuck up is one thing and actively listening is another and I don’t think a lot of people practice that these days. The kind of listening I’m talking about is the kind where you intake every single word someone is saying and analyze it, try to understand it, maybe even try putting themselves into the other persons shoes. You jump it around in your brain and in your thoughts and you try to make sense of it and I don’t think thats normally done between men and woman.

It’s really funny because we listen to our phones just fine, we watch these videos, send videos to each other and they mean something to us, the videos matter, we compare ourselves to them, listen to them, but we can’t listen to each other in person. Tell me how that makes any sense. Anyway, this is my rant and this is also a lesson I’m learning and I’m trying to practice. Every day at one point or another I try to simply shut the fuck up and listen. 

Lots of love, June


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